January 23, 2016

Wibbly Wobbly Adulthood

     At some point... you become an adult. Correct?  I mean, I don't really know.  It's a little hard to tell if someones an adult, or just a really big kid... Though we seem to have some adults in this world (or people who claim to be).  

     I guess we could say that I question adulthood. How can you not? I mean... nobody really knows when it happens.  Are you an adult when you turn 18?  Or perhaps once you can drink?  Or maybe when you can legally rent a car?  I don't know.  We don't know.  Nobody can seem to agree on when you become an adult. That's a little confusing, don't you think?   

     Well, forget the confusion... I'll just say 18 is adulthood. We will say, 18 is adulthood.  

     In that case, I am an adult now!  That thought is overwhelming.  Not in the way a test may be, or any kind of physical or mental exertion would be.  But rather in the way a sudden realization might be. In fact, it is sort of a realization.  Turning 18 has been a sudden realization that I've been around a decent bit.  I am done with high-school, I am moving into some of my final stages of college... And yet I feel completely unprepared "to adult." Taxes, paying for necessities, my actions being my own... it is all a little overwhelming. 
     I feel like no amount of Self-Help  books will help me become the adult I want to be.  So naturally, I've read all the Self-Help books I can get my hands on.  Maybe I'm a little silly.  On one hand I feel ready to be an adult, and on the other I don't want to even think about adulting.  

     Perhaps my anxiety comes from the fact that I don't want to just be an "adult".  I want to be a full functioning and contributing human being.  I don't want to just do things.  I want to see, learn, educate, help, and spread love.  I don't just want to adult. I want to be the best adult I can possibly be.  Humanity needs more then adults who can be confused for "big children."  The world needs more humans who are trying to balance what wibbly wobbly adulthood means. 


  1. You already seem like a grown up to me with a balance of having fun as well. :)
    I didn't feel like an adult when I was eighteen, but when I turned 20.
    I can relate to this piece. Turning into an adult is realising to your responsibilities, getting out of the shell called home, and being a bit selfish too.
    Turning 18 is like this opportunity to taste a forbidden fruit. You can start drinking, driving, get married xD etc. It all seems fun and games at 18 and 19.
    But these same things become a pain later on.
    It was nice to read! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. :)

    1. Thank you for reading!
      Here in America I have to wait until 21 to drink (legally) and either way, I don't believe in drinking. But everything else is suddenly a possibility... It's a little weird feeling.
      I can already see how these opportunities could become a pain... but I'm hoping to stay positive and balanced, and maybe I can enjoy them for a good while yet!
      Also, I just am looking through Instagram and I see you asked about my Facebook page. I'm answering here since it is easier to copy and paste links here. If searching "The Damsel" isn't working then try going to this link: https://www.facebook.com/gossamerlens/
      Let me know if that doesn't work!

    2. In my country they changed the age to 25 after 21 (and after 18. xD) 21 is the legal age for males to get married, while 18 is for girls.
      Don't fret about it. It will be fine. Just try and make the most you can before turning 20, as there are things you can only enjoy as a teen. :)
      And thanks for the link! :D

  2. It's good to know that some (or at least one) 18 year olds are thinking, seriously, about what they will do as adults. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thank you for reading!
      I take being human pretty seriously, and I just hope to do adulthood justice.