tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-423200441275561587.post6948426226496597011..comments2020-11-03T19:22:43.020-05:00Comments on Gossamer Lens: Being a Teen - DatingThe Damselhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07190027122099932792noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-423200441275561587.post-33965146922599455562013-12-17T11:29:53.927-05:002013-12-17T11:29:53.927-05:00I was actually having a conversation about this th...I was actually having a conversation about this the other day, and it got me thinking. What are my views on dating? Society today seems to have an almost opposite view to mine on the subject. TV shows, Movies, Music, etc... all of these portray dating as something that you should just 'do', if only for the social aspects of it. Many times it's seen as weird to have friends of the opposite gender and not 'date'.<br /><br />I myself, have friends of the fairer gender, and hope to keep them. The LDS churches standpoint on the matter is that at the age of 16 you can start group 'dating', and around the age of 18 you can start single 'dating'. Being at the cusp of the 'magical' age 16, I thinking more and more as to what I'm going to do. <br /><br />The more I think about it, the more I begin to question the point of it all. We're 16, why date? What's the point? The likely hood that a relationship started at such and emotionally charged age will last is slim to none. Also, why even classify activities as such? I've had quite a bit of fun on previous excursions with those of the fairer gender. By classifying it as a date, all you'd be doing is making it potentiality more awkward. <br /><br />Looking back at the LDS standpoint on things, there's something else to consider. LDS youth have the option (and are strongly suggested to do such) to spend two years serving a mission. This would most likely cause incredible strain on any budding relationship that could have been formed, making for a bad experience all around. <br /><br />I think that the likely hood of my even attempting to date while so young is slim at best. I intend to try and enjoy the time I have with my friends, and after serving a mission, branch out into the wonders that are a new type of companionship.<br /><br />Your Faithful Reader,<br />Lord DimladrisServant of Inevitabilityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16106649012057510281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-423200441275561587.post-21935577949822292022013-12-17T09:05:34.765-05:002013-12-17T09:05:34.765-05:00getting older really is scary at times, but i don&...getting older really is scary at times, but i don't think you have anything to worry about. you've got such a good head on your shoulders, naomi!<br /><br />the first person i really dated is the cute red-headed guy you see sitting with me at church (not the little one :). i went out with groups of people in high school (not always evenly matched boy to girl ratios, either). we were just hanging out; we were just having fun. if anyone in the group liked anyone else... well, i didn't know or care! in college it became more about the group 'date' - a largish group of matched-up boy-girl pairs. again, it wasn't always about 'liking' the person you were with. it was mostly about hanging out and having fun. my husband was a part of many of those group dates i went on - though never as my date! however, it was though social situations like those that i first noticed him, that i first compared him to the other boys in our group, that i first thought 'i like him.' so by the time we started dating - just he and i, mutually exclusive - we were both pretty sure it was headed somewhere. and we were right :) <br /><br />will other people think you're weird because of your actions and beliefs? the short answer, yes. a longer one might include phrases like not always, just those that aren't worth your time, or only until they get to know you better. but in the end, no matter who thinks you're weird and why, only one thing truly matters... that you know why - why you believe what you do and why you act the way you do. that's what will matter to your parents. and that's what will matter to your real friends. most importantly, that's what matters to the lord.<br /><br />keep doing what you're doing and thinking how you're thinking. you'll be okay. and when 16 comes, you'll know just what to do... be yourself!sweet mama entropyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15379052850120888522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-423200441275561587.post-52396888617923854152013-12-16T22:38:21.440-05:002013-12-16T22:38:21.440-05:00Naomi, I think you are handling this in just the r...Naomi, I think you are handling this in just the right way. It is something to ponder, figure out and hope for the best. I want you to have a ton of fun!! I also want you to live the standards that we, and the Lord have given you. Thus far you have been a pretty amazing teen, I think we can trust you to make the best choices. aubtobobtolobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365359122000788503noreply@blogger.com